DNMS Resource Development Protocol

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Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy is a therapy model consisting of several protocols

Resource Development Protocol is one of them I’ll briefly introduce the whole model I’ll explore the Resource development part in detail

Origins

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The DNMS Developer

Shirley Jean Schmidt, LPC Evolving over last 13 years First as techniques solely to

support to EMDR Now a stand-alone model Pieces of it can be used

support other modalities

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My Story

Use this slide to tell about your experiences using the Resource Development Protocol

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This Presentation

DNMS OverviewRDP IntroductionClient PreparationResource MobilizationProvisional ResourcesRDP ComplicationsDNMS Training

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The DNMS Underpinnings

Children grow and develop in stages Each stage involves a set of needs Degree to which developmental needs were not

adequately met… …is the degree to which a person may be stuck in

childhood

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DNMS Underpinnings

Being stuck means you can be fine one minute

Then suddenly see the world through the eyes of a sad, angry, or fearful child

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DNMS Underpinnings

A child may become stuck after

significant abuse, neglect, rejection, or enmeshment

simple parenting failures

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DNMS Underpinnings

Sometimes well-meaning caregivers unknowingly make

poor parenting choices experience hardships

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DNMS Underpinnings

Some child parts of self are stuck in reaction to wounding people from the past

Some child parts of self are stuck mimicking wounding people from the past

The parts mimicking wounding people constantly retraumatize those reacting to wounding people

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What is the DNMS?

The DNMS is an ego state therapy

Endeavors to help adult clients get wounded parts of self unstuck from the past

Providing relief for a wide range of symptoms and issues

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What the DNMS Treats

Emotional wounds from unmet childhood

needs wounding relationships

This includes Trauma wounds Attachment wounds

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Wounded Parts of Self

DNMS classifies wounded parts as

Reactive parts

Maladaptive introjects

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Reactive Parts

DNMS Overview

Parts of self that form in reaction to significant people who are physically and/or emotionally wounding

You’re bad.

I’m bad.

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You’re bad.

Maladaptive Introjects

DNMS Overview

Parts of self that mimic significant people who are physically and/or emotionally wounding

You’re bad.

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Reactive Parts and Introjects Interact

DNMS Overview

Introjects convey a wounding person’s message to reactive parts

Keeping childhood wounds alive into adulthood

I’m bad.

You’re bad.

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DNMS Begins with Resource Parts of Self

DNMS Overview

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Identify Wounded Parts

DNMS Overview

I’mworthles

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You’re worthles

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Switching the Dominance Protocol

DNMS Overview

I’mworthles

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You’re worthles

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Switching the Dominance Protocol

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Needs Meeting Protocol – Into the Healing Circle

DNMS Overview

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Needs Meeting Protocol – Meeting Needs

DNMS Overview

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Needs Meeting Protocol – Processing Emotions

DNMS Overview

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Needs Meeting Protocol – Bonding

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Needs Meeting Protocol – Totally Unstuck

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Healing By Neural Integration

Siegel: Self-regulation is accomplished with the process of neural integration…

…as functional linkages are made between disparate regions of the brain

Living in the present

Stuck in the past

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Before the DNMS: Neural Disconnection

Adaptive

Adaptive Neural NetworkDisturbance Present

Mature, sensitive, loving,

attuned Resources “You’re okay”

Isolatedchild part is

stuck in the past “I’m bad”

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Neural Pathway

During the DNMS: Neural Connection Forms

Disturbance Resolving



Adaptive Neural Network

Isolatedchild part is

stuck in the past “I’m bad”

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After the DNMS: Neural Connection Established

Totally Unstuck = Neural Integration = Disturbance Resolved

Integratedchild part is

totally unstuck “I’m okay”



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Neural Architecture

Many clients lack the neural architecture to regulate emotions well

DNMS endeavors to develop/strengthen the neural networks neural pathways for self-regulation of emotion

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Neural Networks Developed/Strengthened

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Neural Pathways Developed/Strengthened

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Primary Agent for Change

Not the interpersonal relationship

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Primary Agent for Change

But the intrapersonal relationship

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Alternating Bilateral Stimulation (ABS)

First used in EMDR therapy Applied with

rapid back and forth eye movements alternating auditory stimulation alternating bilateral tactile

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Alternating Bilateral Stimulation

Stickgold: ABS applied in therapy allows isolated neural networks to more easily connect to positive, adaptive neural networks

Knows Trauma is

OverStuck in Trauma

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Alternating Bilateral Stimulation

Used during the DNMS to strengthen connection To each Resource To the Resource team (Healing Circle) between wounded parts and the Resources

Also used to facilitate emotional repair

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Questions?

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The Value of Mobilizing Client Resources

Develops affect management skills Improves trauma processing efficiency/comfort Source of internal wisdom Strengthens internal locus of control

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Resource Parts of Self in Other Models

Using wise, caring, mature parts of self to nurture wounded child parts is not new

Other ego state and trauma therapies do it Often lack a system for verifying nurturing parts

of self are competent

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Resource Parts of Self in Other Models

Incompetent “Resources” are not helpful Some cannot readily mobilize Resources May feel shame that they cannot “do it right” Can exacerbate a sense of inadequacy

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Importance of Robust Resources

DNMS success depends on robust Resources Protocol described here designed to:

Establish robust Resources Verify they are robust Signal when processing blocks are present

Later I’ll describe how blocks are cleared

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Overview

RDP Introduction

Special guided meditations connect clients to…

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Benefits of Resources

Can provide compassion, wisdom, empathy, reassurance, and advice, at any time, for any topic…

during sessions between sessions

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Five Steps

Three Preparation Steps General orientation Discussion of anchor experiences Discuss potential blocks & authentic processing

Two Resource Mobilization Steps Guided meditations Healing Circle

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1. Orient to Nurturing & Protective Adult Self

Nurturing Adult Self: A state of mind that can competently nurture a loved one

Protective Adult Self: A state of mind that can competently protect a loved one

Client Preparation

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They are not superhuman They have needs They are imperfect They are vulnerable They can experience the full range of emotions


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They can meet their own needs regulate their own emotions manage their own vulnerabilities learn and grow from their mistakes


Client Preparation

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Two guided meditations are used to connect to these Resources

Both are based on a single list of 24 caregiver skills and traits


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Empathic Compassionate Understanding Accepting Patient Nurturing Warm Open Able to attune Good at listening Good with boundaries Reliable

Trustworthy Confident Respectful Appropriately responsible Problem-solver Action-taker Decision-maker Logical Strong Courageous Protective Grounded/Centered

The List of Caregiver Skills & Traits

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The Nurturing Adult Self meditation begins with the most nurturing traits ends with the protective traits

The Protective Adult Self meditation begins with the most protective traits ends with the nurturing traits


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1. Orient to Spiritual Core Self

Considered the core of one’s being

Some call it the soul May have existed before

the body arrived May exist after the body dies

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May be experienced during Meditation, prayer, or yoga Peak spiritual experience Near-death experience Moment of clarity while

connecting to nature


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A sense of interconnectedness to all beings A sense of completeness and wholeness A sense of safety and invulnerability No ego, no struggles No desires or aversions Unconditional, effortless kindness and compassion Timeless, cosmic wisdom, and understanding


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Not necessary to be religious or have faith in God

Not a higher power Part of self that resonates

with love from a higher power


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Not just a feel-good state of mind

Transcendent state that’s unwoundable

A place of inner peace in spite of life’s struggles


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Some are averse to anything “spiritual” Atheists Unresolved religious wounds

Several meditations - only one uses the word spiritual


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2. Finding the Anchors

An anchor is a positive personal experience

Connects client to a Resource state of mind

Reflect on anchor experiences during meditations

This facilitates the connection to each Resource

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Discuss special experiences of competently caring for A child A pet Plants The elderly

2. Anchor for Nurturing & Protective Adult Self

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A familiar relationship or event when caregiver skills are (or were) naturally, effortlessly, appropriately applied at the same time while in an adult state of mind


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With that in mind, have client look at skill list

Is there a skill on list not present in this relationship/event?

If so, discuss it


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2. Anchor for Spiritual Core Self

Invite clients to discuss a peak spiritual experience Meditation Yoga Prayer Nature

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Good anchor is not just a feel-good experience

Should evoke a spiritual state of mind (list)

Most will have an anchoring experience

Some will not

2. Anchor for Spiritual Core Self

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3. Prepare Clients for Potential Blocks

Client Preparation

It helps to prepare clients for for potential blocks that might arise to process authentically

Here are sample scripts for that

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3. Prepare Clients for Potential Blocks

Sometimes while connecting to Resources, concerns or fears about the processing will arise. Unconscious fears

may be expressed by the sudden arrival of a body disturbance such as unpleasant sensations, dissociation, distracting thoughts, numbness, or sleepiness. That may or may not happen to you, but if it does, please tell me

about it, even if it doesn’t seem important. You’re welcome to have concerns or fears – just let me know if they come up. I’ll want to address them right away.

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3. Prepare Clients for Authentic Processing

Be sure to tell me about whatever comes up, even if you think its wrong – even if you’re confused. It might

not make sense to you, but it might make sense to me. If it doesn’t – together we’ll figure it out.

We will not successfully complete this protocol if we do this over unexpressed fears or concerns, or if you don’t

authentically disclose what’s coming up.

Client Preparation

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Questions?

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Guided Meditations

Resource Mobilization

Start with easiest Resource to connect to

Check for blocksWhen you think about beginning the

meditation to connect you to your _____ now, what do you notice in your body?

Investigate any disturbances reported

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Guided Meditations


DNMS model contains special protocols for identifying and clearing blocks

Clear any blocks that are found Then ask again…

When you think about beginning the meditation…

When clear, begin the meditation

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NAS & PAS Meditations


Focus on competent caregiving experience

Then read meditation once – without ABS

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Think about _________ as I name each skill on the list. Nod or say “yes” with each skill you know you have. Stop me if I name a skill you believe you don’t have, or if you feel any discomfort that suggests a block is arising. Close your eyes (if that’s comfortable) and

take a deep breath. Now get in touch with the following skills and traits, which you already have,

including your ability to be empathic… compassionate… understanding… accepting…

patient…

Nurturing Adult Self Meditation

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nurturing… warm… open… able to attune… good at listening… good with boundaries… reliable…

trustworthy… confident… respectful… appropriately responsible… problem-solver… action-taker…

decision-maker… logical… strong… courageous… protective… and grounded. Now, bring all these skills

together into a single sense of self, your Nurturing Adult Self, and when you’re ready, tell me what you

notice.

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If the body feels good, apply ABS

Read list again to let it strengthen

This time not interactive

Afterwards should feel strong and positive


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Ask about mental picture of the Resource

Should look like self when nurturing the cherished loved one


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Follow same steps to mobilize the Protective Adult Self

Read meditation words in reverse order Strengthen good feeling with ABS Ask about a mental picture

Protective Adult Self Meditation

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Spiritual Core Self Meditation


Four meditation options Regular Spiritual Core Self Meditation Core Self Meditation Breath Meditation List Meditation

If one doesn’t work, try another

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Focus on peak spiritual experience

Read one of the meditations – without ABS

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Regular Spiritual Core Self Meditation


Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Think about your ____________ experience. Now get in touch with the center

of your being… that place within you that’s quiet… peaceful… and still. And in this place… it’s possible you’ll connect to your Spiritual Core. Your Spiritual Core has

been with you from the beginning… it’s the essence of who you are… your core of goodness. Pure… resilient… and whole. And your body knows exactly how to connect you. Notice as you connect to this part of you, and when

you’re ready, tell me what you notice.

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The Core Self Meditation


Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Think about your ____________ experience. Now get in touch with the center

of your being… that place within you that’s quiet… peaceful… and still. And in this place… it’s possible you’ll connect to your Core Self. Your Core Self has been with

you from the beginning… it’s the essence of who you are… your core of goodness. Pure… resilient… and

whole. And your body knows exactly how to connect you. Notice as you connect to this part of you, and when

you’re ready, tell me what you notice.

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The Breath Meditation


There is a place inside you that’s quiet, peaceful, and still. It's always been there and you can get there by

simply watching your breath. First, deliberately inhale. Notice it takes muscle tension to do this. You have to do a little work to get the air into your lungs. As you

release the air notice that all you have to do is let go. Just let yourself float down, while the air leaves your

body. Notice how good it feels to just let go. Take another breath, and again notice that muscle tension

is needed. Then let go, and just float down.

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The Breath Meditation


Notice that right at the bottom of your breath, right at the point where you stop exhaling, there is a

moment where nothing is happening. Where all is quiet, peaceful, and still. As you breathe again, watch

for that point. When you find it, just rest for a moment or two, quiet and still, not breathing. Notice what that feels like, what your mind is like - empty and calm. Now as you breathe, notice you can stay connected to this calm and quiet place within you.

When you’re ready, tell me what you notice.

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The List Meditation


Think about your ________ experience. Close your eyes (if that’s comfortable) and take a deep

breath. Now get in touch with the center of your being… that place within you that is quiet… peaceful… and still. And in this place… it’s

possible you’ll connect to a sense of interconnectedness to all beings… a sense of completeness and wholeness… of safety and

invulnerability.

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The List Meditation


A place where all things and events are equally special… a place of no desires or aversions… no

ego or struggles. A place of unconditional effortless happiness, acceptance. A place of

loving kindness and compassion. Notice as you connect to this part of you, and when you’re

ready, tell me what you notice.

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If it feels good, apply ABS

Ask about a mental picture

SCS should appear as luminous energy

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Mobilizing the Healing Circle


Invite client to bring all three Resources together

Does it feel good?

Can they form team?

Apply ABS

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Mobilizing the Healing Circle


Then say…You now have a team of Resources to provide

comfort, reassurance, and soothing. In the future these Resources will be able to help wounded

child parts get all their needs met and get completely unstuck from the past.

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Questions?

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What is a Provisional Resource (PR)?

A Resource you can use temporarily, until your Healing Circle team is established

Not as robust as NAS, PAS, & SCS

Like a spare tire – can carry a light load

Provisional Resources

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Why Connect to a Provisional Resource?

Some clients encounter deep-seated blocks when they mobilize these Resources

It helps to have at least one Resource to call on to help clear such blocks

For example, a NAS can help you clear a block to connecting to a PAS


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Why Connect to a Provisional Resource?

But client may blocked from connecting to all three Resources

A PR can help clear those blocks

Usually very easy to connect to


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Connecting to Provisional Resources

Can be drawn from experiences with any entity perceived as supportive and kind Self Other Real Imaginary


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A personal experience of nurturing a child a pet a helpless adult


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Experience of being supported by: someone nurturing a deceased loved one a spirit guide a fictional character a mythical archetype a religious figure


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Examples of Provisional Resources

Based on Self

Margie was very attached to he niece. She’ll read to her, play with her, and cuddle her

PR = Aunt Margie


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Based on Real Other

Sue spent a lot of time at Ann’s home. Ann’s parents were very caring and nurturing to her

PR = Ann’s Parents


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Based on Imaginary Other

Missy believes a guardian angel helped her survive a traumatic childhood

PR = Childhood Guardian Angel


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Finding Provisional Resources

Invite your client to discuss experiences of feeling supported by others being supportive of others

Narrow down to one or more key experiences

Assign Provisional Resource(s) name


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Exercise

Find a partner Discuss experiences of

feeling supported by others being supportive of others

Identify a Provisional Resource Give it a name Time yourself


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Questions?

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Definition

A fear, concern, or condition that makes it difficult for a client to connect to a NAS, PAS, or SCS Misunderstanding Blocking introject Urgent need to do something else

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Examples of Misunderstandings

Confusion about words on the list Must be good at nurturing/protecting all the time Must be good at nurturing/protecting self Resources supposed to be superhuman Wounded parts expecting they’ll have to do the job Resources will be unkind like others were Must believe in God to connect to a SCS

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Some Beliefs that Signal Blocking Introjects

It’s not safe for me to heal.

I’m not supposed to be happy.

I don’t deserve to be nurtured.

If I connect to Resources I’ll get in trouble.

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Old Messages that Signal Blocking Introjects

You’re pure evil.

You’re in trouble now.

You don’t deserve to be nurtured.

Don’t you dare say I traumatized you.

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Clearing Introject Blocks

The DNMS has a protocol for clearing blocks generated by maladaptive introjects

Switching the Dominance Protocol Based on two assumptions

RDP Complications

You don’t deserve to

be nurtured

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An unwanted behavior, belief, or emotion… …is fueled by a wounding introject mask

First Assumption


be nurtured

I don’t deserve to

be nurtured

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The part wearing it does not like it, want it, or need it

Second Assumption

I don’t like this mask!


be nurtured


be nurtured

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The Mask is Dominant

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be nurtured

Processing Stalls

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Processing Stalls

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be nurtured

Switching the Dominance Protocol Overview

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Hey. It’s not so real.


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Now it has no

animation at all.


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I’m in charge now!


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I deserve to be

nurtured


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After Switching the Dominance

Switching the Dominance can quiet an introject and stop the processing block

Usually just takes a few minutes Additional interventions are needed

for introjects to heal completely

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Urgent Need to Do Something Else

Here and now concern

Client may need to Discuss a current crisis Create more rapport with the therapist Better manage upset parts of self

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Resolving Processing Complications

The DNMS book explains exactly how to identify and resolve RDP complications

Clearing blocks… Can be very healing Can resolve internal conflicts Can be very ego strengthening Can lead to better affect management

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Questions?

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This Presentation


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DNMS Book Home Study Course Live Training Get details at www.DNMSInstitute.com

Three Options for Learning the DNMS

DNMS Training & Support

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Provides background material Detailed steps for applying all the protocols for

clearing blocks Appendix has client handouts and therapist

worksheets and forms Costs $35

The DNMS Book


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Seven module slide show (16 hrs) Colorful, animated, narrated Includes recordings of real sessions Study guide with quizzes 20 optional CEs Costs $375

The Home Study Course


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Part 1 General Background DNMS Background Resource Development Protocol Switching the Dominance Protocol Overcoming Processing Blocks Four Days, 32 CEUs available

Live Trainings


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Part 2 Attachment Needs Ladder Conference Room Protocol Needs Meeting Protocol Four Days, 32 CEUs

Live Trainings


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DNMS Listserv Free with purchase of book Over 700 members

Local study group Group phone consultation Individual consultation

Other Support


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Case studies about the DNMS have been published in two peer-review journals The Journal of Trauma and Dissociation Traumatology

Both articles are available on the DNMS web site www.dnmsinstitute.com

Published Research


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